On-Line Dating Versus Blind Dating
Blind dates are common with your crowd. Your friends, who one-by-one are getting married, are “concerned” that your biological clock is ticking very fast, and you are becoming an “old maid”. The husband of the last friend who got married, John, has a brother, Jack, who is single and very available. You agree to meet Jack.
You and Jack, your first blind date, meet at a rib joint, which happens to be one of Jack’s favorite restaurants. Once you get to the rib house and walk in you are shocked to see that all the waitresses are scantily dressed. You attempt to walk out, especially since you are a vegetarian, but a gorgeous guy runs over to you and introduces himself as Jack. He asks you if you are Linda and you nod yes. He then escorts you over to a table he has already been sitting at.
As you begin talking, you realize that Jack knows the weekly TV schedule verbatim. You haven’t sat through a movie in months because you run marathons and volunteer at the local food bank. He says, “Volunteering is a waste of time because you can’t help those people, anyway.
You are so bored you begin thinking of how you could make as polite an exit as possible. Jack is a sweet guy and you two could be friends but you really don’t see thing going much beyond friendship. He seems to be very interested in you though, and you are happy that at least guys still find you attractive.
I assure you, my online dating experiences were very different from this. When I used to meet guys on-line, before I met my husband on-line, we would email back and forth, and talk over the phone as long as we wanted to, before physically meeting.
With on-line dating, you don’t need to be introduced. You have already been introduced via telephone conversations and emails. You already know this man and he knows you. You are sitting in an Italian restaurant enjoying a delightful meal because you both know that the other’s favorite is Italian. The conversation flows easily as you discuss common interests.
You both know a lot about the other before you meet. You both enjoy beaches. You both love travel and children. Neither one of you is a couch potato, and you both have extroverted personalities. Your first physical meeting is a great success for both of you.
With blind dating your friends choose your date for you, thinking they know who you are looking for. With online dating you choose your potential friends yourself, based on pictures, emails and sometimes videos. Since time today is such a precious commodity, we need to be as efficient as we possibly can be, with it.
Which one would you rather have?