7 Tips to Make Your Marriage More Fullfilling

Do you remember when you first thought of getting married? A marriage is wonderful… but not all the time. There are times when marriage seems an uphill task. And there may even be times when separation appears to be the only viable option. A marriage has its ups and downs. A successful marriage is only possible if both parties are willing to put in their best.

If the spark has gone out of your love life, take heart as you can still infuse your marriage with new life and vigor. Given below are 7 tips that could help make your marriage go from boring to infinitely fascinating. Look forward to spending quality time that is necessary for a rewarding relationship.

1. Forget and Forgive.

Every relationship is full of agreements and disagreements. This is what adds to zing and spice of life – especially married life. Want to prevent your marriage from getting stale? Forgive and forget each other. Remember the dictum, “To err is human; to forgive is divine.” I agree it is easier said than done. Give it a try and see the magic.

2. Demonstrate Your Love and Intimacy.

Enjoy every new discovery and every new day with your spouse. Intimacy is only able to grow in a marriage where there is a strong commitment to one another. Learn to be honest with one another about what turns you on. The sexual side of marriage need not wane. Greater knowledge of your spouse and deeper affection should make love making a celebration of your life together.

3. Be Respectful and Honest.

A Thank You or Sorry note will never belittle you as a human being – it will rather boost your respect in the eye’s of your partner. If there are some issues involved talk about them directly at an opportune time. But do not make mountains out of molehills.

4. Laugh and Let Laugh.

The materialistic aspect of our lives has turned us into robots. Take some time together to laugh or watch a cartoon movie. Why not to join some laughter club? Or better start your own in your block. Your neighbors’ will bless you for that.

5. Communicate Regularly.

If there is something you do not like or approve, say so matter-of-factly. There is no way for the other party to know what is brewing up in you. But be discreet and open. What you say, how you say, when you say, and where you say matter a lot.

6. Decide Together.

It is important that couples make joint decisions on things like finances, children’s education and upbringing, delegation of household chores, etc. One must not be superior over the other. If you can’t reach agreement straight away, leave it for a while and come back to it again later. If there is still a stale mate, be prepared to give in to your spouse. Take turns in giving in to one another. Marriage is not a competition.

7. Do not Forget the Simple, Small Things.

Buying a bunch of flowers, leaving an I-Love-You note, appreciating a well-arranged dinner are some of the things with which a husband can make his wife’s day. Do it, and do it often. Similarly, a wife can enjoy more magic moments of togetherness with her husband if she remembers to be grateful to him for arranging finances for the family, playing with the kids, and buying knick-knacks.

Being married is not always easy – especially in our society where so many marriages fail. But as long as both partners know that they have each other to hold on to, it should be a rewarding relationship. Be there for each other, “for richer or poorer, in sickness and health, and til death do us part”.

Simi Surin is an expert in saving marriages from hitting rock bottom. Her heartfelt advice has often resulted in… yours’ forever. She has a website http://letsstartafresh.com loaded with practical and realistic tips to save relationships on the rocks.