Dont be dragged into a long virtual romance
Online dating has one really great advantage over the meeting someone for the first time off-line, i.e. on a street (bar, museum, party, wherever). In dating on web you already know something on the person you are about to meet. This is especially important for those of us, who are shy. It is easy to beat the fear of rejection, when you already made some steps.
Preliminary message exchange, on-line chat and phone talks help to overcome the shyness, which can make dating impossible otherwise. For the same time, you didnt have a personal contact with this man or woman before, so all that you are relying upon is a photo and the information, which your partner passed to you. Personal meeting is your only way to fill the blanks.
The key to successful internet dating is ability to decide whether it is time to meet him or her in person, or quit the exchange. Trust your intuition. If you feel that the meeting is acceptable and you want to see that person, do not delay with the meeting. Too long delay can cause your on-line relationship to dry-out and die.
After a brief exchange in the network you will have enough information to conclude either that this person might be the one you were looking for, or not. Of course, if discussions getting too boring and you feel that you lost your interest, it is better to look for someone else before one of you becomes too attached to another. Too prolonged online exchange can cause you these two problems:
1. Keeping online exchange with a person who is not too interesting to you may create a lot of confusion on the other side of the line. Perhaps, this guy or girl sitting in front of another monitor is contemplating some plans on you. It is not fair to give him or her false hope that this virtual connection may be materialized into something more substantial. It is hard to say no sometimes, but this is exactly the case when saying no is better, than getting yourself dragged into an endless and useless connection. Besides, the better you know the person, the harder is to end the virtual exchange with him or her. So you better do it as soon as you feel it, do not let yourself a second thought, and do not give him (or her) a second chance: just move-on!
2. When the actual meeting is delayed, the imagination fills the blanks of a virtual friend. So instead of real person, you will have to deal with some ideal one. If ever the real person will materialize, the mismatch could be quite disappointing for both of you.
Savvy users of online dating are getting from Internet a preliminary selection of suitable candidates, the rest happens in a real world. For your own goodness as well for the sake of your partner you have to decide after initial exchange of 2-3 messages if you want to continue with meeting in person, or quit this contact and keep looking further. If you have decided to continue, best would be to meet your virtual date face to face, before your imagination will take over. Dont let this to happen, set a date without delay!
Good luck!
