Get Ex Back By Listening

When we want to get our ex back, we all tend to think the same kind of things. We’ve got to promise them we’ll change, we’ve got to do some fast talking, we’ve got to apologize fifty times.

One powerful method to get your ex back though, is to listen, not do all the talking. Most likely, your ex broke up with you because you wronged them in some way. Maybe you were too needy or too jealous.

As time went on, because of whatever you did, your ex’s heart began to fill up with negative emotions towards you. That’s why they dumped you. Their heart is now full of these bad feelings.

Your job, to get them back, is to help them to release their negative emotions towards you. You can’t get them back unless they begin to resolve the negative emotions that fill their heart.

Fortunately, there is a great way to help them to do this. It’s called venting or getting things off one’s chest. You’ve probably done it or helped a friend to do it. After work you have a beer and they tell you all about what their boss is doing that drives them nuts. After venting to you, they feel better.

Letting them get things off their chest is a powerful way to help them to let go of all the bad feelings stored up in their heart. Yes, you will need to apologize. But get them to vent first.

Start off by asking them how what you did makes them feel. Then be a good listener. Don’t argue or defend or justify yourself. The idea is to get them to blow off steam.

If you can get them to vent a time or two, they will then have some room in their heart to feel good about you again. Your apology will likely be much better accepted.