Getting Over Toxic Relationships
Moving on after a toxic relationship is not an easy task to do, especially for us women. More often than not, when we are trying to end a toxic relationship, a big dilemma sets in. The dilemma is: one side of your brain tells you to stay with him and the other side tells you to stay away from him. Trying to figure out which side is good for you can really be hard, but it really possible.
Also, getting revenge may come to your mind or set up your own blog where you can rant and rave about your toxic relationship and how you feel about your boyfriend. Perhaps it’s a good way to let go of bad emotions and get some advice from those who would ever read your blog. But it’s, most of the time, just a waste of time and energy. Allowing people to show your out of control? Not a good idea. So what should you do to end a toxic relationship?
Get those tears out. Crying alone in your room could help, but you can surely do better than that. Get those tears out in a movie! Ask a friend or two to watch a movie with you and when the mushy part sets in, cry it all out. Your friends probably wouldn’t care if you cry even by just seeing two polar bears snuggling up, it is a mushy moment after all.
Under no circumstances should you call him. Remember, this relationship was toxic. As much as you may yearn to hear his voice, think of the phone as a transmitter for those poisonous relationship toxins to seep back into your system. The longer you can go without dialing him up or seeing him face-to-face, the stronger you will grow.
List the good things and the bad things about the relationship, then compare. If your relationship is toxic, you definitely will have a long list of bad things, enough to convince you to really end the relationship with him and move on.
Find a sports or any activity for your pent-up energy. Let the stress off your body and do something that’s meaningful for you. Play tennis, learn photography, etc. These activities will make your mind wander about something else and also will let the creativity out in you. Once you’ve done it, you’ll be able to have a much clearer mind and better point of view.
Babble things out with your friends of any family member who knows about your relationship. They will surely listen to anything you want to say and might give you some pointers, especially those who have been through toxic relationships as well.
Breakup happen to all of us, but they are optional. If you think you can patch the things up with your boyfriend then do something to work the relationship out. Compromise, but do not sell yourself short. Remember, it’s normal to feel bad, annoyed, and even angry when ending toxic relationships… but beating yourself up is too much. If you feel that it won’t really work out, then move on and deal with spending your life without your ex. You can always keep on dating, after all.
Candice Garcia answered the question about getting over toxic relationships. You can find more articles on her relationship blog at http://getexbackmagic.com.
