He’s Just That Into You
We often begin a mind numbing game of translating someone’s every word and movement when we first meet them. We do it all in the hopes of figuring out whether or not they like us.
Why do we women do this to ourselves? I can’t for the life of me figure that out! Mind you, I’m not innocent either. After all, you don’t become a relationship writer without a whole lot of relationship self analysis. After all of which I have concluded that straining ourselves to figure out a man’s emotions is just too much work. When really, it’s not that complicated.
Unless a man is sending you ridiculously mixed signals (shame on him), you should be able to listen to your gut to determine whether or not he’s smitten. You can weigh the back and forth between you two all you want but at the end of the day, your instincts as to his feelings will probably be right.
Having said that, there are probably still some of you out there who want to read into what he says and what he does. To make this “he love me, he loves me not” just a bit easier, here’s a little cheat sheet. If it fails, cut to the chase and just ask him.
He’s told his friends about you
When you meet his friends for the first time, and you’re not a surprise to them, that’s a good thing. It means he’s talked about you with them. If he wasn’t really interested in you, he wouldn’t have bothered mentioning you.
He calls during non-booty call hours
I could say something about calling you the day after your first, or even second, date. Sadly most men still believe they need to wait a week before calling, which is such an old and out of date notion.
Just because he doesn’t call right away does not mean he isn’t interested. However, if the next time you hear from him it’s 11:30PM on a Friday night, this guy is clearly all about the ass over class. If you’re cool with that, then go to it. But don’t expect a guy who follows up a date with a booty call to want to meet your parents anytime soon. Barring that situation, if he calls in the next week to set up the next date, he’s interested, at least for now.
He’s really listening
Men who are taken with someone typically want to be a little sweet and romantic. And what’s the best way to do something out of the way and special for his new lady? Knowing things about her. You have to know the facts before you can plan your romantic assault. At least, I hope most men are doing this, otherwise their attempts at romantic gestures will be generic and boring.
This post was written by the staff of the Datepad.com internet dating company where you can read hundreds more professional dating posts.
