Is He My Boyfriend, Partner or Would be Husband?
Sometimes it can be really tough to work out what you relationship has developed into. You may have been going out with the same guy for quite a while now and things may have become rather routine. You might like him but not be sure where you are. You don’t know how he feels and how secure this whole thing is. Is he your boyfriend, partner or what?
As you go through the roller coaster that we know as dating, you have to understand that it is a process of discovery. It’s natural to want to shortcut the process and dream about kids and a husband to come home to in the future, but you can’t rush things and after all you should enjoy your life journey anyway.
If you are still wondering whether he is your boyfriend, partner or could be more and have spent some time dating already, then the unfortunate answer is that he is not the one for you, most likely. Understand that by taking time to get to know each other you should, deep down have made the decision one way or the other. If you just stay together for the sake of it, you will both be unhappy as things work out.
Seems that it is difficult to find the right guy and to be sure that you have not miscalculated. Guard against jumping into any kind of arrangement though if you are just essentially craving company as he may essentially be just a friend, rather than boyfriend, partner or more.
By going through difficult relationship after difficult relationship it is always tempting to rush things and to assign a title to your latest guy. Yes, we know that dating is not easy but it has to be a process of elimination and there will be false starts aplenty before you know it is correct.
Dating is always about compromise to a certain extent and will always require a modification of behaviors or positions and a gradual understanding and acceptance of the other person. This is quite natural and is part of the journey from boyfriend, partner or husband.
You may feel that you cannot make up your mind about where you are going in your love life and may not be, deep down inside, sure of your latest guy. Have an honest and frank discussion with him and if he feels the same way, then you should agree just to be friends.
It can be difficult to reset the clock and start the process of dating once again, but this is what you need to do sometimes. It might help to do some research and find out how others approach these roller coaster times and this might help you repurpose and go out there with a positive outlook.
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