Opting to Forgive & Learning How to Recover From a Broken Heart
INSIGHT #1 WHEN Preferring TO FORGIVE AND RECOVER FROM A BROKEN HEART – Forgiving means you’re willing to let go of the tags you attach to yourself as you at the same time admit responsibility for your actions. Keep in mind acceptance of responsibility doesn’t mean beating yourself up.
It just means recognizing what you’ve done and accepting the outcomes of those actions. Releasing any negative judgments for any personal errors as you start to accept responsibility for your role in things is necessary to prevent your hurt from intensifying. Understanding this is how you learn to recover from a broken heart.
INSIGHT #2 WHEN Opting TO FORGIVE OTHERS AND RECOVER FROM A BROKEN HEART. Forgiving someone for the hurt they caused doesn’t mean letting them off the hook. You see, forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting or being a doormat. Resenting someone else for the hurt they caused and holding them accountable only hurts you.
Remember, since the only person you can change is yourself, all you manage to set yourself up for frustration. Remember forgiveness isn’t about your ex, its about you and choosing to make healing the priority.
INSIGHT #3 WHEN Selecting TO FORGIVE OTHERS AND RECOVER FROM A BROKEN HEART. Forgiveness is a commitment you make to release your judgments for past mistakes (whether your own or others). You see, the opposite of forgiveness is bitterness and rue.
With bitterness you’re just bearing a grudge for what’s fallen as you relive the painful events of the past. Your hurt becomes just cause for why they’re to blame. With regret, on the other hand, you replay previous events wishing they could be undone. Either way, with regret or resentment your stuck in the past wishing to undo what can’t be undone. Remember choosing to forgive is the best gift you could give yourself. It’s a decision to make healing the priority.
